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In America a man cannot strike his wife to teach her a lesson; we call that battery. In America prisoners are not allowed to be flogged, or beaten; we call that cruel and unusual punishment. In America an adult may not strike another adult in order to solve a conflict; we call that assult. But..... If you are a child, in America, an adult may have the right to paddle, whip, switch, cane, and hit/spank you; in order to solve a conflict, or to teach you a lesson. This is not considered cruel or unusual....in fact, by many it is considered good old fashioned healthy discipline!
The Fools on the Hill:
Injuries caused by school paddlings
Sadly, many christian churches and organizations have supported corporal punishment. Churches and organizations, like Focus On The Family, have twisted the bible and taken things out of context to create a theology that says that god approves of hitting, and that if you hit your children to teach them then it is proof that you love your children and brining them up in a godly manner. Resources: Christian’s for Nonviolent Parenting http://nospank.net/cnpindex.htm Parenting In Jesus’ Footsteps http://parentinginjesusfootsteps.org/ AOLFF (Arms of Love Family Fellowship): Grace Based Discipline http://www.aolff.org/ Parenting from the heart http://groups.hamptonroads.com/pages1.cfm?page_id=10061 “Should I spank my child” and article from Christianity Today. This is an excellent article which examines the symbolic meaning of the “Rod” in the bible, and shows how corporal punishment is counterproductive and un-biblical. http://www.christianitytoday.com/cpt/2003/002/6.50.html Why Not Train up a child? http://www.kjsl.com/~lindav/notrain.htm Article on positive discipline http://www.stophitting.org/disathome/parentSupport/fivereasons.php Articles on effective discipline from EPOCH http://www.stophitting.org/disathome/parentSupport/ Research on Christian support of CP: http://nospank.net/floggers.htm
Children learn by example: consider what a child is being taught when their parents hit them? They learn that hitting is a way to solve problems. There have been many stories of parents who were disturbed to witness their children hitting their dolls right after the parent had spanked them. Children model parents, and spanking teaches agression.
The fact on the bench above is something that most people do not even think about. The reality is that spanking can distort a child's developing sexuality. Children are not asexual, and the buttocks is a sexual/erogenous zone of the human body. The same blood vessels and nerves that are connected to the genitals are also connected to the buttocks. When a child is struck repeatidly on the buttocks it causes blood to rush to that area of the body (causing the buttocks to redden); the same blood that rushes to the buttocks can also rush to the genital area since, the blood vessels of the buttocks and genitals are connected. As we all should know, an increased bloodflow to the sex organs is what causes sexual arousal. If this occurs it is quite possible for the child to experience a sexual reaction when being spanked. They may not recognize that the reaction is taking place (because they are in so much pain from the spanking), but the reaction that occured can be stored in the subconcious. If the reaction occurs over and over again during later experiences with corporal punishment, it can cause the highly mallable child to form an unconcious connection between the pain they experience when being spanked, and their sexual arousal. If you add in the additional sexual undertones involved in corporal punishment, this connection can be made even stronger within the child. Consider that when most children are spanked they are told before and after that the parent is doing this because they love them; this sends the message that people who love you hurt you, and that being inflicted with pain is an act of love. Also consider that when many children are spanked their parents remove their pants and underpants to forcefully expose a private area of their body. Then the parent violently touches this private/sexual part of the body by slapping them over and over again. Spanking is not a good idea for many reasons: it causes agression, it can cause depression, it can erode the trust the child has for their parents, it is easy to cause brusing , physical marks, and other bodily damage.....but, this sexual issue should make everyone think twice before making the decision to subject their kids to corporal punishment. Some kids never experience this sexual side effect; but there are many who do.....why would any parent want to take a chance? Check these sources for more info: http://nospank.net/sexdngrs.htm http://nospank.net/martin.htm http://www.nospank.net/uistim.htm http://www.nospank.net/arlotta.htm http://www.nospank.net/tiina.htm http://www.nospank.net/s-rape.htm http://www.nospank.net/ben2.htm http://www.nospank.net/gibson.htm http://www.nospank.net/coldrey.htm http://www.nospank.net/s-bw.htm http://www.nospank.net/n-a23j.htm http://www.nospank.net/n-a18j.htm http://www.nospank.net/n-a05j.htm http://www.nospank.net/carol2.htm http://nospank.net/sexdngrs.htm http://nospank.net/dwayne.htm http://nospank.net/jenn.htm http://nospank.net/chloe.htm http://nospank.net/susan.htm http://nospank.net/s-chrls.htm http://nospank.net/holm.htm http://www.nopaddle.com/interviews.asp?interview_id=36&this_interview_id=36&this_interview_text_id= http://www.nopaddle.com/interviews.asp?interview_id=40&this_interview_id=40&this_interview_text_id=
James Dobson.....Roy Lessin
Quotes from Dobson's books on corporal punishment: "Real crying usually lasts two minutes or less, but may continue for five. After that point, the child is merely complaining... I would require him to stop the protest crying, usually by offering him a little more of whatever caused the original tears." 28 "If a parent responds appropriately, on the backside, he has taught the child a valuable lesson..." Most (children) need to be spanked now and then." When a youngster tries this kind of stiff-necked rebellion, you had better take it out of him, and pain is a marvelous purifier. The reason I suggest a switch or paddle is because the hand should be seen as an object of love - to hold, hug, pat, and caress. However, if you're used to suddenly disciplining with the hand, your child may not know when she's about to be swatted and can develop a pattern of flinching when you make an unexpected move. This is not a problem if you take the time to use a neutral object. The spanking may be too gentle. If it doesn't hurt, it doesn't motivate a child to avoid the consequence next time. In one chapter James Dobson describes beating his dog with a leather strap, because it defied his authority by resting next to the warm heater in their bathroom.
Quotes from Roy Lessin: a stick is the most effective instrument to spank (sic) with because its flexibility brings the greatest amount of stinging pain. It is better for children to carry a few temporary marks on the outside than to carry within them areas of disobedience and wrong attitudes that can leave permanent marks on their character. 'Blows that wound cleanse away evil; strokes make clean the innermost parts' (Proverbs 20:30). In one section of his book he says that if a child cries for too long after the spanking then you should keep spanking them because they are being willfully disobedient by not accepting their discipline with joy. He says that if a child is grumpy you should spank him....spanking a child can teach them to put on a better happier attitude. Read Beth Fennimore's account of how she was raised on Lessin's methods and how it hurt her: http://nospank.net/fenimore.htm
Read some of these reports on the results of school paddlings: http://nospank.net/n-s20.htm http://nospank.net/cpsc.htm http://nospank.net/classrm.htm
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